Self sabotage...why do we do it?

Everyone has moments of “weakness” but some of us out right sabotage ourselves and rebel against our goals.We eat cake even when we really don’t want it and are trying to lose weight.Maybe we eat it because it is there, or maybe we are not sure how to face change.Or maybe we eat it to control our failure. I see this self destructive behavior often, especially when people get close to reaching their goals.I believe it boils down to several main things: being uncomfortable with change, need for control and fear of failure.

When we are out of our comfort zone, we are not sure what to expect or if we can handle the problems that might bring.Think about it, if you have been overweight and a self proclaimed unattractive person for a long time and then you become thin and feel more attractive.What is going to happen to other peoples’ behavior?If you aren’t in a relationship, you might start dating (which can be scary).Or you may be expected to eat perfectly and exercise now by others which opens you up to the possibility of failing. Fear of failure can often be paralyzing. Or you may have to admit that you were once fat, if you are now thin and people are noticing.Whatever the reason, change is hard.

We all like to stay in our comfort zone because we know what to expect from ourselves and from others.To those that self-sabotage and wonder why…think about what you could be afraid of and face it head on.What if people start giving you some attention or make comments about your appearance you are not used to, is it so bad?You will never know if you can handle the new challenges that being thin poses (and yes, there are always challenges).Embrace change and the unknown that might be behind it.You might just find that you love it…maybe the grass is greener?You will never know until you make the lifestyle changes and stop the self sabotage.

Today is a new day to recommit to your goals. Think about how you have worked hard to reach your goals and how you deserve to reach them. Don’t be the obstacle in your own way, don’t allow yourself to be. Be the best you can be. Live healthy every day.

To learn more about how you can handle self sabotage attend the Coping with Emotional Eating Class offered in the Davis County Area. To learn more message Coach Lora Erickson at theblonderunner@gmail.com

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